Dating people in wheel chairs
I don’t see him as disabled, I see him not the chair. He just expects me to do everything and I never get the respect or appreciation that I think I deserve.If he is able to make the mess he is able to clean it up, but he leaves it for me, if I didn’t do it, it wouldn’t get done. He never offers to help me and I am getting very tired and sad.I still haven’t gotten used to other women being in my house taking care of my fiancé, knowing about our personal lives and every little detail that goes on in our home.I pretty much take care of everything else on my own the laundry, cooking, cleaning, taking care of his service dog, making sure he has his meds every week, taking him to work, picking him up from work, taking him wherever he needs and wants to go.When I try to talk to him about it he just says it has to be done.I constantly have to clean up after him on top of everything else and he doesn’t care.
Before I was handicapped, I was in a very deep relationship with a guy in a chair. Yet I chose him because he appreciated me for myself, not my body; and because I wanted to be cuddled and held, not just “screwed”, and he was not able to have normal sex.He has transferred to a lounge by the pool and she was really getting off on the chair, riding around in it herself and then parking next to him and leaning over to kiss him.I used to do the same thing, back when I was walking and my boyfriend wasn’t. I can relate, but I too am in a wheelchair but with no success in dating.I left home to move in with Chris, I gave up everything that I worked so hard for. He was the best thing that ever happened to me, and I wanted to be with him more than anything despite my family turning against me.I quit my job, dropped out of school, and gave up my car for a Volvo (so he could transfer easily and the wheelchair fits in the back). We have our good days and bad days as any relationship does.